Things to Ponder

What makes the loss of a loved one so difficult?
I seriously believe that it is not being able to say goodbye that makes the loss of a loved one difficult. At least by communicating that you love each other, forgive each other or have released your regrets you can find some closure. That doesn't make the pain any easier to live through, it doesn't make the situation right and it doesn't help in the short term. What it does do, however, is provide the groundwork for you to begin the healing process and hopefully you will find that you will get better and life will go on as it must.

Why is breaking up so hard to do?
In my experience, breaking up isn't nearly as hard to do as throwing in the towel. The admission of defeat is something that I still have problems with. My preference is to instead focus on how a challenge can be transformed into an opportunity or perhaps to learn something new. Sometimes things just don't work out between two people. It could be due to distance, family, background, environment and other variables.

If you like somebody but God/fate/life/the universe conspires to not let you be with them, what is it that you're missing or why aren't you trying harder?
Sometimes, we are lucky enough to meet somebody who wakes up something within us and makes us feel more alive than we ever did before and that's all that they were meant for. The alternative is that we're simply too lazy to make a real effort to be with somebody despite the challenges. Your choice.

What are you satisfied with in your life up to this point? What would you change?
Our reality is defined by our perceptions. If you maintain a positive attitude and convince yourself that you're lucky, life will tend to rearrange itself to that perspective. With that one simple change, you might discover that losing your job/business leads itself to even greater opportunities that you may have never otherwise have seen. You might discover that the reason why you dislike somebody is because of a deeply rooted sense of guilt or because of something you see in that person that reminds you of yourself.